Calculate your score

Answer these questions.

1. When you are introduced to a stranger, do you normally become tense?

2. Do you try to be the centre of attention of groups?

3. Do you consider yourself a successful person, socially speaking?

4. Do you find it difficult to demonstrate in public some of your personal skills (such as telling jokes, dancing, singing...)?

5. Do you have problems when speaking in public?

6. Are you happy/satisfied with your own image?

7. Would you eat alone in a crowded restaurant?

8. Do you feel quite skilled at socializing?

9. Do you accept praise gracefully and naturally?

10. During meetings/encounters with strangers, do you listen more than speak?

11. Do you show your feelings to friends you don't know very well yet?

12. Do you go red when someone shouts at you in public?

13. Do you feel inferior when introduced to an important person?

14. Do you often think that your contributions to a debate can be relevant?

15. When you are going to be presented in public, do you sweat, shake a bit, and feel insecure?

16. Would you be able to imitate a famous person?

• If you said YES to questions 1, 5, 10, 12, 13 and 15, give yourself a point for each YES.
• If you said NO to questions 2, 3, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9, 11, 14 and 16, give yourself a point for each NO.

Interpretation of the score:

• If you scored less than 6, your ability to make friends is acceptable.
• Between 6 and 10, you have/have had difficulty relating to other people socially.
• More than 10 points, new situations and getting to know new people is hard for you.

There is nothing in the whole world, Lord, like having one true, enjoyable, understanding friend. No one is ever so lonely when he doesn’t have a friend. To find one, all you have to do is to go out and help somebody. Now and then say to a friend, “I love you”. Those words weren’t meant only fro sweethearts. They are just as significant, beautiful and life-enhancing when said to a dear friend. A true test of friendship: If you died, which of your friends would you trust to clean out your drawers? When I talk, my friend listens. When my friend talks, I listen. That’s one of the reasons we’re friends. Friends are like bracelets charms. If you truly love and enjoy your friends, they are part of the golden circle that makes life good. If you want more friends, smile more! I’ve never known anyone who smiled a lot who didn’t have a lot of friends. Friends are too precious to lose – even when they disappoint us. Lord, help me to forgive this friend – it is only because I need and love her. (And because I’d want her to forgive me!) Friends are worth forgiving. The heart has many doors, of which friendship is but one. Don’t be too quick to bolt them.

Questions:

1. What ways of making friends do you know? Are they different from those described in the text? How often do you say “I love you” to your friends?

2. Think of the test of friendship mentioned in the text. Would any of your friends stand the test? Describe his/her qualities.

3. Are friends really worth forgiving? Do you forgive your friends? Are there any reasons why you may never forgive your friend?

Would you …

· Drive him/her to work every day

· Take care of his/her children

· Lend him/her a large sum of money

· Give up your job for him/her

· Forgive him/her for doing something very mean to you

· Die for him/her

How to give an opinion:

Personally I think …

In my opinion …

From my point of view …

My view is that …

If you ask me / If you want my opinion/ As I see it …

I am not really sure if …

I wouldn’t agree. (direct way)

You can’t be serious! (informal)

How to agree with an opinion:

I take your point. (informal)

I couldn’t agree more. (direct)

I’m with you on that. (informal)

Yes, I entirely/quite agree with you there/ on that. (formal)

Yes, that’s how I feel/ how I see it. (formal)

Citations about friends and friendship

1. Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing. (Benjamin Franklin)

2. Friendship needs feeding. (John Garner)

3. [Friendship is] forgetting what one gives, and remembering what one receives. (Alexander Dumas)

4. Friendship is but a word. (Philip Massinger)

5. There is no such thing on earth; the best we can hope for here is faint neutrality. (Adapted from Samuel Tuke)

Friendship is …

1. … a ship big enough to carry two in fair weather, but only one in foul. (Ambrose Bierce)

2. … like money, easier made than kept. (Samuel Butler)

3. … a sheltering tree. (Samuel Taylor Coleridge)

4. … a holy tie. (John Dryden)

5. … the gift of the gods, and the most precious boon to man. (Benjamin Disraeli)

6. … the wine of life. (Edward Young)

7. … like wine, raw when new, ripened with age, the true old man’s milk and restorative cordial. (Thomas Jefferson)

8. … the only cement that will ever hold the world together. (Woodrow Wilson)

9. … one heart in two bodies. (Joseph Zabara)

10. … two clocks keeping time. (Anonymous)

11. … a plant of slow growth… (George Washington)

12. … among women only a suspension of hostilities. (Comte de Rivarol)

Whether we are drawn to people by familiarity, similarity, beauty, or some other quality, mutual attraction sometimes progresses from friendship to the more intense, complex, and mysterious feeling of love. There is a great similarity between love relationship and good-friend relationships. In both there are high levels of trust, mutual respect, and acceptance. Nonetheless, the love relationship, with its greater depth of caring and exclusiveness, typically generates greater emotion and power.

What is love? This is a question people have been asking for years. Mass media, romantic novels, soap operas, and song, have all been attempting to answer this question.

Love is a many splendored thing.

All the world needs is love.

Love makes the world go round.

I can’t live without love.

How do I love thee, let me count the ways.

Love means never having to say you’re sorry.

Our lives seem to evolve around this subject. But does anyone know what love is? People seem to have their own definitions of love. When your date says that he or she loves you, what does your date mean? Is it the same as when your mother or father says it to you?

argue break up fall in love get on well meet

get to know each other keep in touch go out together stay friends

WRITING

Name of city or town

Date (Day, Month, Year)

Dear Joe (or Jill, etc.),

How are you? I hope you and your family are fine. (Then write a few lines asking about different family members or friends if you want to. Or go right into the next part, telling briefly how you are and your family and mutual friends are doing.)

I want to tell you about … (Tell your friend something about your life, ideas, work, problems, or activities. Or if you like to share your private life, tell him/her about your thoughts, emotions, and dreams.)

Well, it’s time to bring this letter to a close. (Or you can say, “I guess that’s about all for now.”) Hope to hear from you soon!

Love (or Fondly/ With affection),

Ann (or Mark, etc.).

P.S. My travel plans have been changed. I’m now going to … (and so on, with the message you almost forgot to include).

Some other typical first sentences:

It was nice/ great/ lovely to hear from you …

I hope you’re well …

Sorry I haven’t written for so long …

Thanks for your letter …

How are you? I’m fine.

Some other typical last sentences:

Write soon.

I’ll be in touch soon.

Give my regards/ love to your family.

Say ‘hi’ to your mom.

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• The cultured person

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