Dependency, Isolation and Goal Derailment

Business Practices

§ Practitioner has offered to see me for free or for a very low fee as a favor to me.

§ Since my fee is so low, the practitioner expects me to bring food for him/her to the sessions or to do other tasks in exchange for treatment.

§ Practitioner bills insurance for sessions that don’t occur.

§ Sessions frequently run over by half an hour or more.

§ I am usually the last appointment of the day.

§ There is usually no one else around when I have my appointments.

§ The practitioner often keeps me waiting for long periods of time.

§ I owe the practitioner over $1,000.

§ I often don’t know how long a session is going to last. Sometimes it’s 20 minutes, other times it’s an hour and a half.

§ The practitioner frequently answers the phone during my sessions.

§ If the practitioner is hungry, we go to a restaurant during my session.

§ The practitioner has told me that I should break ties with most of my important relationships (such as those listed below) and I don’t understand why:

Mother Father Sister(s) Brother(s) Partner or Spouse
Social groups Religious activities Treatment group
Close friend(s) Political groups 12-Step programs Other

§ The practitioner encourages me to see him/her as often as I can afford to do so, even if I don’t feel a need to come so often.

§ The practitioner encourages me to telephone him/her often, even if I feel I don’t need to.

§ The practitioner tells me what she/he is doing in terms of personal growth and suggests that I do the same thing.

§ The practitioner goes out of his or her way to accommodate the frequent schedule changes that I request, even though it is very inconvenient for him/her.

§ The practitioner suggested that I drop out of school.

§ The practitioner seemed to think that my plans to go to/complete school were a bad idea.

§ The practitioner thought that my ideas to change my career for the better were not a good idea.

§ The practitioner offered to see me free if I were to run out of money, even if I needed long-term free treatment.

§ The practitioner has given me his or her own used clothing.

§ The practitioner tells me what clothing to wear and/or how to wear my hair.

§ The practitioner demands that I talk to no one about my treatment.

§ I have said several times that I’d like to see another practitioner for a consultation about my treatment, but my practitioner is adamant that I shouldn’t do it.

§ The practitioner regularly offers concrete support to me such as visits to my home, accompanying me in difficult situations, frequent calling to see how I am. When I am in a crisis, he/she is even more available.

§ I feel with this practitioner as though I’ve found the kind of help and understanding I’ve wanted all my life.

§ The practitioner regularly reminds me that she/he is the only person in my life who really cares about me. The practitioner regularly reminds me that he/she is the only person who really understands me and knows what’s good for me.

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